things i learned in quarantine

I often take time to reflect on my past, thinking and writing about my thoughts, so being forced to stay home in self isolation is a perfect time for thinking. 2020 is a year that won’t be easily forgotten and I don’t want it to be, so what better thing to do then write & remember.

Your time is too important to waste so do what makes you happy and don’t let other people tell you how you should live your life.

I’ve had a couple experiences in my lifetime where I’ve gone with the flow, done things I didn’t want to do but felt other people wanted me to do. Sometimes it’s good to give to other people. If my friend wanted to go to a certain restaurant but I didn’t, well in that situation I would give to them. But if someone around you wants you to give up a lot of your time and energy to something you don’t have the heart for, maybe it’s a good idea to save your energy for what really matters. Over the years I’ve had many people tell me how I should live my life. Over quarantine I realized that we never know what’s going to happen, times can change very quickly and so living my life with other people telling me how I should live it is not worth it. Keeping in mind that my time is important it helps me to set good boundaries.

Just because you’re not the person you wanted to be doesn’t mean your not a wanted person.

Throughout my life I have wanted to be a certain type of person: fun, adventurous, spontaneous, you get the picture. I’m not that way, I need to have a plan, I have limits and I’m not super adventurous. Throughout quarantine I have realized that even though I am not that ideal person that I wanted to be I still matter, I still add value and I’m important in my own way. I add a lot to a conversation, I make things happen by planning in advance, and I love investing myself in projects full on. So, when I see a fun loving girl on the beach having a “wild” time I have to remember that I’m here for a reason and I’m a wanted person to. Staying in my “lane” makes me realize what I do well.

Throughout quarantine I’ve learned that “exciting” can look different; it doesn’t have to look one way. Anyone can be exciting in their own way, I used to look at my friends and think they were more exciting than me, but over time I begin to realize that whoever you are you can add a lot to a experience if you just give it your personal flavor, sometimes it’s listening and providing good advice. While other times it’s capturing the moment, or making a funny joke.

The only thing that’s stopping you is you.

I’ve wanted to start working out for a very long time and over quarantine I finally started. I would always make excuses, I’m too busy or I don’t have the lung capacity or whatever but recently I realized that one day I just started and that was that. Now I work out everyday and I’ve even started eating healthier. This experience really showed me that the only thing that’s stopping me is me.

You control how you look, feel, act, so take responsibility for your actions.

Quarantine really showed me how I control what I do. I wake up and throughout the day I spend time on Instagram or do things I don’t really want to spend my time doing. But then I feel like I’m not making a choice to do that, like it’s out of my control. Throughout quarantine I developed a quality morning routine which made me realize that I was making the choice to scroll on Instagram throughout the day. I physically have to turn of my device and move on if that’s not what I want to be doing, just like if I say something rude or act out of frustration in a negative way, it’s my responsibility to own up to that.

Taking time to stop and reflect is a valuable idea, even though something can seem negative it can end up being really positive like quarantine, which gave me the opportunity to reflect, learn, and write so many life lessons.